Although my biological father passed away when I was 3 months old, my father who was there for me and raised me taught me some valuable lessons in life which I am incredibly grateful for.
I am now a father of 3 beautiful children and an uncle to 10 nieces and nephews, I have a lot of weight on my shoulders and I have a lot to teach them about life and success.
Here are the lessons I learned from my father and the lessons I have learned along my journey in life that I will be teaching my kids, my nieces, and my nephews.
1. There is no such thing as CAN’T
As a young kid, I raced motocross bikes and there were times when I had to overcome some obstacles like jumping a big jump or having to beat a fierce competitor. I would say to my father, “I Can’t do it” and his reply was bullshit, there is no such thing as can’t! It is all in your mind, all you need to do is believe it! Every time he would prove me wrong as I would end up jumping the jump or beating my opponent.
Over the years I have used this with everything I do in life and there is one other thing I have added to this and this is to have the self-belief in yourself and your own abilities. Without this, you are sabotaging your own success.
2. Identify a role model
When I wanted to become a Champion at motocross, my father would tell me to ride like the World Champion. Greg Albertyn was South Africa’s first World Champion and after meeting him he would then be my role model and I would watch him ride on tv all the time. The way he moved, the way he kept pushing even when he was down. The determination and passion that it took to become a Champion.
If you want to be great at anything in life, whether it is being a father, sport, business anything you need to learn from the best. Find a mentor or a role model that you can look up to and learn from. The more you can learn the further you can go in your adventure.
3. Work your Ass Off – Be Disciplined
Some people are born with natural abilities in their chosen field and others are not, they have to work their ass off learning and perfecting their craft. Nothing in life worth achieving comes easy, it takes hard work and dedication. The feeling of achievement when you reach your goals or achieve the success you have worked so hard for is nothing short of fricken amazing. We have all experienced this feeling at some stage of our lives and that feeling is a great motivator to keep pushing for more success. Never settle for second best!
Discipline is a concept everyone is aware of, but few truly understand. The most successful people in life exert discipline on a daily basis. It is vital to every living being and without it, the world around us would be chaos. Showing your kids from a young age what discipline is and how it can benefit them in the future is an absolute must.
To be a great and inspiring leader, you must constantly display restraint. Not giving into something you truly want is a sign of strength. Making the right decisions in life can make or break you, and this type of person tends to make the right decisions. Regardless of where you exert this self-restraint, it will help to promote achievement in your life.
As our children will follow in our footsteps leading by example and showing them in our daily routine what it takes to be disciplined is the best way to show your kids that meaning.
4. Create Goals
“From my early years, my father encouraged me to set goals, whether it was something as simple as picking up a hobby, trying a new sport or learning a new skill. Setting measurable goals didn’t have to be rigorous, they just had to be things that were important to us and could be achieved.
Fast forward to today and I still keep a list of goals. Although I must admit, I’m not quite as organized as I would like to be. I am working on bettering myself and I want my kids to grow up and see how important setting goals can be in life.
The goals you set in life shouldn’t be too outrageous. They should be attainable and actionable. Everyone gets sidetracked, but if you learn the value of proper goal-setting early on, the benefits will follow you throughout your life and career.
What types of goals should you set?
Long Term 5-10 years
Short Term 1-5 years
Be super clear on your goals with finite detail to each one you create and then write down a WHY you want to achieve that goal.
5. Be Kind To Others
Always treat people with the respect that you want to be treated with and always ask yourself before taking action against others. “would I like to be treated to or spoken to in this manner?” Not as easy as it is to say but if you treat others with kindness and respect you will inevitably be treated the same way back.
As Arnold Schwarzenegger Quotes. “Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.”
To add to that, you can never step on anyone on your way because as much as you can plan your life you will never know what is going to happen in the future. You can disrespect a colleague on your way to the top at work only to end up going for an interview with him in the future.
On the flip side, you can be a kind and generous person and when things seem to be going to rat shit the tied will turn and someone will offer you a great opportunity.
6. Value your friends and your family.
It’s imperative that you don’t get too caught up in business and forget to make your personal life a priority. Set aside dedicated time for your personal well-being and for your family. It might seem cumbersome in the beginning, but doing so will actually increase your productivity at the office, which is a win-win.
Take a moment to look at how you can learn a little bit every day. Be prepared. Set goals and work to attain them. Get help along the way where you need it, and always put people first.
Spending quality time with your kids is so important and making them feel loved and important will help nurture them for a more loving and understanding future – This is important for any person at any age. Feeling loved, valued and important builds self-esteem and self-worth, which is necessary for a fulfilling life. Children often mirror their behavior after that of the people they spend the most time with, so choose wisely how you treat others and act in front of your kids.
Lead by example and show them how a good father/parent should behave, show them the qualities you wish to see them grow up with.