Life is all about balance. Although being proactive, productive and achieving success is one half of the equation, there is an equally important other half and that is finding peace within yourself and in your life
Living in peace is about living peacefully and accordingly with yourself, others, and all the people around you. I believe there are 2 parts to living in peace. There is an inward process which begins with us and we need to look inside our hearts and understand that fear can cause the impulse of violence.
If you continue to ignore the rage inside the storm that bursts outside will never subdue. The outward process is how you love and respect others in your life or whom you may come in contact with through business, sport or friends. We need to learn to respect others peoples views even if we do not agree with them.
As husband and wife often do, one argument led to another and I needed to try and find some inner peace for myself. I tried to figure out where I was going wrong. What I found astonished me and made me realize I was being selfish in some aspects and needed to adjust in order keep the wife happy.
I found that I was trying to control her by seeking to impose my will and reality on her without stopping to see her side of things. I know that we all do this to each other as I have noticed others do it to me, however, the majority of the time this would end up in conflict and certainly wasn’t a peaceful way to live. By replacing my will to control with a broad approach of loving her instead, including her faults and differences, turned our relationship into a more peaceful loving one to the one we were leading.
I also started spending 10 mins in the morning upon waking up and 10 mins before bed being grateful for everything throughout the day and finding inner peace. Without inner peace, you’ll feel in a constant state of conflict. I spent my life trying to fill my life with possessions or improving myself by social climbing without stopping to value my inner worth and this left me drained and unhappy. Once I realized my worth I could then move forward on my goals and achieving them become fun and exciting.
I came across these 21 rules of life to living a life of peace, happiness, and present moment awareness.
1. Accept everything just the way it is.
2. Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.
3. Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
5. Be detached from desire your whole life long.
6. Do not regret what you have done.
7. Never be jealous.
8. Never let yourself be saddened by a separation.
9. Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others.
10. Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love.
11. In all things have no preferences.
12. Be indifferent to where you live.
13. Do not pursue the taste of good food.
14. Do not hold on to possessions you no longer need.
15. Do not act following customary beliefs.
16. Do not collect weapons or practice with weapons beyond what is useful.
17. Do not fear death.
18. Do not seek to possess either goods or fiefs for your old age.
19. Respect Buddha and the gods without counting on their help.
20. You may abandon your own body but you must preserve your honor.
21. Never stray from the Way.
On a final note, one needs to seek forgiveness, not revenge. We need to live in the present, not the past. Dwelling on that which should have been and reliving past wounds will keep the negativity of the past alive and bring constant internal conflict into your life. Forgiveness allows you to live in the present, to look forward to the future, and to not let the past hold you back. Forgiveness is the ultimate victory because it lets you enjoy life again by making peace with the past.