Achieving success is important for most of us. From receiving academic awards and accolades to becoming the best version of ourselves, being successful can be a contributor to overall happiness. Whatever your goals are whether they are to get fitter, stronger, trade like a forex pro or create long last success in life and business the people you hang around most will influence your future outcomes.
Your level of advancement in life is directly affected by the types of people you choose to spend most of your time with. That’s why you must choose them wisely and in my experience, there are three kinds of toxic people that are detrimental to your success.
1. The “Soul Draining Vampires”
Have you ever been in a fantastic mood, and then talk to someone who makes you feel like life is shit and not worth living? Ok, maybe an over exaggeration but you get my point, a person that zaps the spring out of your step and positivity out of your life with their negative vibe.
The people that constantly have drama in their lives and all they do is talk bad about others and bring people down. They are physical, emotional, and mental vampires. After interacting with them, you go from happy to sad, depressed, and completely stressed out full of anxiety.
To be successful, you must stay focused, have a winning mindset, and maintain high levels of energy. It’s impossible to do that if you constantly allow toxic people to dump their problems and life’s bullshit on your shoulders.
2. The “Growlers and Grumblers”
I think we have all met this type of person at some point. No matter what happens in their life, whether it is good or bad, they are constantly complaining. They never have anything good to say about themselves, their lives, or others.
The major problem with hanging around a growler/grumbler is that you end up moaning and complaining just like them, and usually about the same things. You forget to be grateful and appreciative of all the good that you actually have in your life.
Complainers are toxic people who never take accountability for their actions. They place the blame on everything but themselves. This mindset is what fuels their constant whining about what they don’t have, what they want, and what they feel they deserve.
A change will never come without being responsible and accepting the fact that it’s up to YOU to make things happen. Every constant complainer I have met is nowhere near accomplishing any worthwhile goals they may have.
I am a firm believer of you attract what you think about most and therefore if you are going to spend your life complaining you will naturally attract more shit to complain about. Its simple law of attraction.
3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder ( The Pyscho )
Individuals with this disorder exhibit a lack of ability to empathize with others and an inflated sense of self-importance. In short, they give zero fucks about anyone else but themselves.
The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships.
A narcissistic personality disorder is indicated by five or more of the following symptoms:
- Exaggerates own importance
- Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal romance
- Believes he or she is special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions
- Requires constant attention and admiration from others
- Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
- Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals
- Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy
- Is often envious of others or believes other people are envious of him or her
- Shows arrogant behaviors and attitudes
If there’s someone who constantly zaps your positivity, energy, and focus, you have a person draining energy from inner your circle. By avoiding these three types of toxic people, you will not only increase your chances of success, but you will also ensure continued growth in every area of your life.
You have heard about the saying you are only as successful as the first 5 people you hang around with. This is hard to comprehend because those 5 people you might have grown up with but now you have a different mindset and different outlook on life. The way I see it is, you can say to those 5 close friends, these are my goals this is what I want out of life, do you want to join me on this mission and you work together? Some will say yeah 100% lets go but do fuck all. Common, but you need to take it with a pinch of salt and realize that not everyone knows they have what it takes to achieve great success and therefore they will hold you back. Keep them as friends of course but expand your business circle.